I am a 24 year old birth mother living in Indianapolis, Indiana. I placed my son with a wonderful family in May 2016; I have just experienced my first year post-placement. I decided on open adoption after an abortion procedure miraculously failed. After placing my baby boy, life became tough. I had no worries or doubts about his well-being; I had chosen the perfect family. However, when the grief set in, I was lost and distraught. Ultimately, I had to choose to pick up the pieces and take a step forward. In my short but ever-continuing experience, I have found that a healthy balance of helping yourself and helping others is abundantly therapeutic.
I attend a birth mom support group in my area to help myself, I blog openly and honestly, I am a Marketing Director for an incredible adoption agency in Indianapolis, and I am the Indiana representative for the Talk About Adoption organization. I live and breathe adoption. "Get a life!" you might say.. To that I would answer, even if I had the chance- I would not have my life any other way. I am living out my true purpose in life, day by day.
I believe that if you repeat the pattern of seeking help for yourself and showing love to others, you will not only see new blessings that will come your way, but also the blessings that you already have. From Anotha Motha is here to connect birth mothers - young and old, every skin color, religion, culture, social status, education level, political party, and any other divisive factor you could possibly come up with! Basically, my philosophy is that everyone deserves to have peace with their adoption choice, and we can all strive to find it... together.
You can read more about my story here.