I am a 25 year old birth mother living in Indianapolis, Indiana. I placed my son with a wonderful family in May 2016; I have just experienced my first year post-placement. I decided on open adoption after an abortion procedure miraculously failed. After placing my baby boy, life became tough. I had no worries or doubts about his well-being because I knew I chose the perfect family for him. However, when the grief set in, I was lost and distraught. Ultimately, I chose to pick up the pieces and take a step forward. In my short but continuous experience, I have found that a healthy balance of helping yourself and helping others is abundantly therapeutic.
I host a birth mom support group in Indianapolis, I blog openly and honestly, I am the Adoption Outreach Coordinator for the Adoption Support Center, an incredible agency in Indianapolis, and a public speaker. I live and breathe adoption - but it does not define me. Even if I had the chance, I would not have my life any other way. I know that I am living out my true purpose in life, day by day.
I believe that if you repeat the pattern of seeking help for yourself and showing love to others, you will not only see new blessings that will come your way, but also the blessings that you already have. From Anotha Motha is here to connect birth mothers - young and old, every skin color, religion, culture, social status, education level, political party, and any other divisive factor you could possibly come up with!
I know that many have good adoptions, but that also many have bad adoptions. Adoption is a trauma and is centered around loss. It has dramatically affected our lives in one way or another. But with this, I believe that everyone deserves to have peace with their adoption choice, and we can all strive to find it... together.
Together we are stronger.
You can read more about my adoption story here.