This weekend is Mother’s Day, the extra day out of the year where we are reminded of the heartbreaking choice we made.
It’s so easy to feel invisible on this day. Even when people try to recognize a multitude of different kinds of moms, we are usually still left off the list. Should we demand recognition, or should we sit in silence with our heads down?
Eh, neither. We should proceed with our Mother’s Day, giving ourselves the day we need and deserve. We all come from different walks of life and we all have very different adoptions: open, closed, and everything in between.
Maybe you’re like me and you don’t have a family of your own. You placed your first and only child, and everyone will get recognition, while you get sad stares and silence.
Maybe you placed your child years ago, but have since had more children that fill your home. Maybe you placed your child after you already had children at home. You get recognition for your other children, but no one quite knows what to say about the other.
Maybe you didn’t have a choice in your placement. Maybe you were coerced out of motherhood, and the pain is seemingly unbearable that your motherhood was stripped from you.
Maybe no one sees you, or hears you, or feels the weight of the burden you bear.
No matter what type of mother you are, you are one. Take this day for you, just like any other mother would. Have a mimosa, plant some flowers, and let the sun shine down on you. Your recognition may not come from others, but it can always come from within.
This year, I will not be sad. I will not wait around on anyone’s recognition, or wonder if someone else thinks I am worthy of my own motherhood. With confidence, I know that Mother’s Day is also my day. This is a day that all mothers can share because this day cannot ever be over capacity. I have an inkling of peace in my heart this year. It marks a milestone for me; another year of a new life and another year of a beautiful birth mom community that makes me feel at home.
Happy Mother’s Day, my friends!
PS. I am proud to announce that this year, we have sent Mother's Day cards to nearly 400 birth moms. To learn more about #FromAnothaMothasDay, click here.